Thought Bubble: We feel a sense of loss when we make changes. Nature doesn’t like a vacuum so fill it up.
Intro/Topic: Feeling then healing from change. Use nature. Grow something and fill the void. Start a new collection. Loss is part of life. Loss of a relationship, loss of a job, loss of a home, loss of an idea or a concept of self. However, we can fill in that loss and go on from there, you just need to give yourself time to realize that there truly is a loss. Here are some steps to heal from loss. I don’t say recover because if you break up that word to RE and COVER it feels like it means to cover again. We don’t want to cover up anything, we need to feel the loss first.
- Feel the loss and go through the emotions of denial, blame, anger. Remember, they will go through you and leave again. Emotions do not stay.
- Get something natural. A pet (if the loss was a pet make sure you are ready for a new one) , a plant, new hobby involving life. This will distract your energy a little bit onto the new natural element thus restoring it.
- Bring something new into your life that makes you happy and dive deep into it. Even if the initial idea doesn’t keep you, this positive path you start will eventually lead you to something great.
- If your loss was something where you felt great in that position then you lost how you felt about yourself. An example from my life. I volunteered for an organization. I was really into it and invested. I liked myself during my time. I left the organization and was confused about my feelings of loss. I asked myself “Would I go back again?” The answer was no. So, I realized it was me mourning me, as I was, in that organization. This happened a few more times with moving location. I liked whom I was or I built up an illusion of a me in that location. When I moved, I mourned all of that. But that “me” is still inside and a part of myself.
Discussion: The new normal is an uncharted landscape. You are the captain. Do you get stuck at the final outcome or can you take small steps of the journey? If you get too stuck with the emotions involving loss you will have a tough time filling the void. Think of a hole in a sinking raft. You just want to plug that hole till you can get to safety. The emotions are like the hole and they can get bigger and bigger till they eventually sink your raft.
Jeremiah 29:11
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
