Are you feeling blamed for something that you feel you did not instigate/create? Do you feel sadness, anger, resentment, abandonment when you are being wrongfully blamed? Why must we go through this experience? Were our boundaries not strong enough or our morals to flimsy?
Discussion: Like a kid who did nothing wrong yet gets blamed and thrown away, how does this make us feel? This is a dumpster full of emotions. Sadness, empathy and understanding, anger then abandonment.
Meditation: It’s important to feel these emotions and let them go. Emotion, energy in motion. All emotions will leave you. They are messages and some are more like spam. Sometimes they will feel like they are in a body part. Remember, all messages like this are to teach us something, don’t hate the messenger. Take two deep breathes and think about how it feels to be blamed for something that you didn’t do. How do you feel about the other person blaming you? Now imagine that person is casting you out , leaving you. How does this feel? It is important to reframe this experience and reparent yourself now. Give yourself sympathy as if you were consoling a small child or pet. Treat yourself lovingly.
Discussion: It is what is it, that tired old cliche. But it’s true. Accept what has happened. We are blamed and we are suffering the consequences for something we did not do. We care, don’t we? If we did the thing we might feel more contrite or not care at all. Get rid of the anger, shock etc about being blamed this will enable you to get the healing faster.
A lot to unpack and many different emotions to go through but you will can get there. Companies and celebrities are easier to see this lesson with then friends and family members. When someone “takes a stand” it would be good if it were just between them and the thing they are taking the stand for or against. However, these actions seem to spiral and touch many other people.
Courage is what it takes to stand and speak, courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen – Winston Churchill
Sit down and listen to the opposing view. See if there are any nuggets of wisdom or any small point you can agree with. This will make the opposing view feel more relatable. It will give you more understanding.
“Forget ideas of good and evil for our discussion. For one thing, men who perform seemingly evil acts but who believe those acts to be right and justified, can be carried along in relative safety for some time before their errors catch up with them, because the power of their own self-approval is so strong.”
“This does not mean that they will not face consequences, but their self-approval provides a sturdy rudder that holds them often aloft, where most men might perhaps be drowning in the same circumstances.”
— “The Personal Sessions: Book 4 of The Deleted Seth Material”; Deleted Session January 3, 1978, by Jane Roberts, © 2016 Laurel Davies-Butts.
